I have posted a new page about cheating and what variables there are to it. Look at your current relationship. Is your loved one cheating on you, even if it just in thoughts, cheating is cheating. You can see the page by clicking here: http://www.loveaccordingto.com/cheating-and-the-likes/

When you are dating or in a relationship, you should not feel lonely.  What if you do?  There are a few questions you should ask yourself.  First off, are you being too sensitive?  Many times we get wrapped up in what we want and forget our partner has a life too.  It is easy to slip into if one person is sensitive and the other is not.  The one that is not sensitive may feel smothered by the one that is and so the argument begins.

The second question should be, what is their life like right now?  Maybe you miss them , although they have so much going on they have not had the chance to slow down and even think about you. Which of course begs the question; how much do they really care if they don’t think of me at all?  That is question only time a patience can answer.

The last question you need to ask is two fold.  How long have I felt lonely while being in a relationship and more importantly, what is worse, calling it quits because your significant other is not around or continuing what you are experiencing.  Only you can answer these questions.  No one can tell you how you feel inside.

In the end it all comes down to love, how much you feel from that person, how much you give back. How much loneliness you can take and how long will you tolerate it from them.  Love is yours and yours alone, who you choose to give it to and take away from is also your decision.

My Love has left, my heart is broken and my lover is not my lover anymore. I feel like a blob of decisionless goo. A pile of mud contained by the walls of the bucket I am held in. My love is lost and I feel no more.

Yes, if you have not guessed by now, I am talking about breaking up. What do you do when you find your significant other is no more? Whether it is by your decision, their decision, or a mutual agreement, it hurts all the same.

Although, now is when I think of that Queen song. I can here the words resonate through my aching heart: “Just one year of love, is better than a lifetime alone.” So they tell me.

Nothing can compare to broken heart, the pain, the constant mind numbing pain, and the lack of any real short term cure.

If you find your self in this position, have faith, the pain will subside, the hurt will go away and the whole that used to be your heart will grow back into a full blooming heart ready to love again.

What about religion? Did you ever think maybe you should inquire about the religion of your prospective companion? Too many times we take for granted the religious motives of our significant others. Any faith is better than no faith. If you don’t believe, then what do you have? Nothing. I have come across a website tonight that touched me. I was out searching around for anything, just goofing off, and I found this site called Spiritually Unequal Marriage. The site is a blog about faith, religion and the likes. I found myself lost in reading the posts. I also realized something I forgot; faith. Without faith you can not experience full love, whether it is human love or spiritual love. I urge you to take a look inside and evaluate yourself. Are you who you thought you would be? Are you the woman/man you wanted to be? If you answered yes, congratulations. If you answered no, then where do you look for inspiration? Faith? Or guidance? Take a look at the aforementioned site. you may find what you are looking for. Thank you Dineen.

What if the one you love today is the one you will be with till you die? You ever think about that? You should. Most people enter into a relationship because they feel some type of attraction to the other person. Once they are in the relationship though, they are deciding if they want to be with that person till the end. You should give them the courtesy of doing the same thing or letting them know if your intentions are otherwise.

I have written a page about love and whether the loss of the habit hurts worse than the actual loss of the love. You can see the page by going here: http://www.loveaccordingto.com/habit-or-love/ Think I am way off or right on?

Without your loved one near love seems to wilt away. Life becomes colder and the desire to love gets weaker. I need my lover to be close, I need to feel them, I need to see them more than a couple days a week. Seems like the more I try the more they push away, yet the more I stop caring the happier they become. So what is the point of trying any longer? I am not sure, although maybe my spirits are just that low because the one I love is not here.

When the day rolls on and the one you love is wrapped up in it. Life can be a little lonely. I try to take a step back, look at the reality of what is actually happening and put myself in their shoes. Sometimes it helps sometimes I wonder what I am even doing thinking the way I am. Other times I am left feeling lonely, a little unwanted and lost. This is typically cause I just want my significant other to be here and hold me and I don’t really care what or why they can’t be here. Love can be unfair. Hell, life can be unfair. I just look to tomorrow and hope the day is brighter, happier and full of more than today is.

Are you with your ’soul-mate’? Do you feel completely compatible with the lover you are with? Have you ever tried to look for the ‘right’ one? The page I just posted can help you determine if the person you are with is compatible with you along with figuring out who you are compatible with. Check it out!

What ever happened to ‘going steady’? Seems life has starting moving so fast we forgot to take time and smell the roses. Here is a new page that explores my take on the ‘going steady’ subject. What is your opinion?